Saturday, August 5, 2017

Someday is today.

Two weeks ago, my sister asked me to ride with her.  We took a familiar route, one that we had travelled many times in the months that we trained. It was a beautiful day, and the first time since our race in June that I had even been on a bike.

"Laurie, we rode our bikes for 100 miles."

I repeated this statement, for the literal meaning, which was kind of astonishing to me on its own merit. 100 hilly miles is no small thing.  But it represented something far more significant and symbolic: the medical hills and distance that we have travelled as a family.  I find myself in a bewildering place.

Since that beautiful New York day, a mere seven weeks ago, my daughter Lauren has had three surgeries and a confirmed diagnosis of extraskeletal osteosarcoma. As we searched for therapy options that might spare her the risk of treatment induced leukemia, Brent was found to have AML.  This devastating relapse was confirmed the night before Lauren began the exact protocol that caused Brent's blood cancer.  Without any better options, we nonetheless began pumping Lauren with the same poisoned cocktail that we fed to Brent six years ago. 

Watching this infusion made me just as nauseous as the cisplatin made my daughter.

There aren't words to describe how busy, nor mentally and emotionally taxing these weeks in hospital have been. 

Each of the kids prepared for treatment, dyeing their hair in anticipation of losing it: Lauren donning bright purple and Brent going with sky blue. Lauren worked with her tutor, finishing all of next years math while she waited for chemo to begin and healed from surgery.  Lauren shopped for hospital gear. Brent had a get-together with friends. Cancer has become somewhat normalized in our home, which is probably good, but is also kind of disturbing.

We have had several admissions with both of them in at the same time, often on separate units and in different buildings. This has been completely overwhelming.

My sister had urged me to bike with her, in order to clear my head.  As we passed familiar barns and climbed elevations that we had trained on dozens of times before, I would pointedly repeat, "We rode our bikes for 100 miles." 

My sister would affirm this statement.  "Yes, Ann.  Yes, you have. You have done this.  And you will again."

While the specific challenges of finding appropriate treatment options are new, the process of 'figuring it out' is not.  We found a way to graft skin from Alex to Brent, relentlessly asking folks to consider our unique problem.  Dan reminds me of how we initially and repeatedly have been told 'no' over the course of the past six years and urges me to keep asking. It is often about asking the right people. Bold, creative and courageous people, in the right specialty. We have been blessed to have so many cross our path, just when we needed them.

I have worried and doubted about how this will happen again, the RamerNation pulling another rabbit out of a hat. My son is determined, so this inspires me to get busy looking. My daughter is strong, which bolsters my faith.  My husband encourages me to keep asking, learning and advocating.  Our family is simply better together. The combination is synergetic. We are much stronger than the sum of our parts.

As Brent finishes his bridge therapy this weekend, after a gnarly detour through PICU, I am thinking about our next steps. We will look in earnest for trials, particularly immunotherapy options.

I was biking less than two months ago to support Cancer Research Institute, with the theory that immunotherapy might be something that my kids would someday need. Someday certainly came crashing in on the heels of that ride.

Someday is today

We welcome your prayers for our family.



Tuesday, June 13, 2017

We Pedal On

We got to West Point Friday night just in time to pick up our registration packet and drop off our bikes.  I got to meet my first friend from AstraZeneca.  Priscilla was a riot of optimism and enthusiasm, asking to take photos and promising me that we would see each other in the morning. She assured me that we would encourage each other throughout the 100 miles. She did not lie

We had time to grab some delicious pasta dinner, get Dan and the other kids settled into our Airbnb (Dan gets extra points for being the lone driver in the later car) and then go to bed. No late night Cav's watching for this girl--although it seems that they did quite well, even without my attention.


Jamie gets extra chauffeur points for getting up so early to take us to the starting line and a round of team points for getting snazzy custom RamerNation jerseys made for the three of us. The morning weather was mercifully cool. West Point was stunningly beautiful. The course, as advertised, was hilly throughout. I felt great for the first 45 miles.


I met Orlaigh, a woman from Ireland, (actually from the same town that Laurie just returned from) who now lives in Long Island. She was riding 100 to honor her mother, who had breast cancer. I hate cancer, kind of a lot.

I thought a lot about the people who travel with me in spirit. My phone, which carries a fantastic biking playlist from my volleyball girlfriends, dinged text messages of encouragement throughout the race. Jamie, Dan and the kids waited for us at the rest stops and finish line, ever supportive. I saw a ladybug on a flag, a symbol of my friend Gabby. I felt both a rush of grief and a dose of her encouragement, something which always bolstered my confidence. We don't really do anything alone in this life, regardless of how it may appear.

I came to this century ride with Alex (who absolutely killed it, finishing an hour and a half before us) and Laurie (who was announced as the 4th highest individual fundraiser). However, we ended up riding most of the miles alone, only bumping into one other at rest stops, which is how these races tend to work out.


Like a starry sky filled with constellations, there are vast stretches of quiet in between. Throughout the ride, I thought about how Alex was somewhere in front of me and my sister just behind me, connected by invisible bonds.  My husband would be cheering just up ahead. Glimpses of Brent, Lauren and Olivia could sustain me. Jamie often drove by, shouting encouragement through the window.

I met some researchers who had good things to share about their work.  This lifted my spirits as I considered Lauren's current issue. Potential issue, I should correct, because it is not a problem until it is a biopsy confirmed problem. 

I say this kind of a lot, a mutant mantra for mental health.  Because there are lots of worries along the way, which could rob me of today's blessings if I allowed them to dominate my thoughts.  It is difficult mentally to tamp down worry, particularly when I have intimate knowledge of how long and difficult a sarcoma treatment is.  But today is not that day-- which is another handy phrase.



It got hotter in the afternoon, but the folks from CRI did a fantastic job of providing support. There was food, water, Gatorade etc, every 10 miles or so, and the SAG trucks patrolled the routes to make sure that everyone was covered. Laurie struggled at the very beginning and tailed the pack of 100 milers.  She told me that for the first 40 she had her own personal SAG driver, Paul, who insisted that he would not leave her. And he didn't, until she began passing people, and met up with me at mile 55.  It was an extremely well run event.

I biked with Debora, another part of the AstroZeneca team, an ebullient woman who is comfortable hugging a sweaty stranger on a bike. She evoked Gabby's social fearlessness and perpetual optimism.  

In the second half of the ride, the century riders chatted more at the rest stops, encouraging one another, plying pickle juice on those who were cramping and plotting out the distance remaining. Breaking down the miles we had yet to grind out, into smaller more manageable chunks really helped. "Only 12 miles to the next rest stop!"

Around 70 miles in, just after passing a SAG truck, I lost use of my brakes.  Laurie, ever practical, pointed out that I wouldn't need them for at least the next quarter of a mile, which was clearly uphill, so we climbed.  At the top, there happened to be three riders from AstraZeneca who were stopped at the crest. They kindly helped me with what ended up being a simple fix, something that any experienced rider would know how to handle.  A downhill followed, one that was perilous even with functioning brakes. Without their help, I would have had to wait for the SAG truck. It felt somehow prophetic to see how these researcher-riders became directly involved with my plight. 

Laurie and I later worked our way up a ridiculously steep and winding road that hugs the rough rock face of a mountain, with the Hudson River flowing below. We had come down that gloriously scenic hill early in the morning, when our adrenaline was rushing, and our legs were fresh. We did not stop for a photos in our haste. Racing along, I had seen a huge bird take flight and I thought about how extraordinarily beautiful, but fleeting it was. 

As we reached that same peak after a long climb on our late afternoon return, Jamie was waiting there to take our photo, capturing us sweaty and tired. It was still a glorious view. As we posed, a biplane which I can only describe as 'Gabby Yellow' came out of nowhere, passing close, and commanding our attention.  It was perfect.




An exhilarating downhill followed.  However, we did not return through West Point. The course took us instead a different route that involved some hills that Laurie and I neither anticipated nor appreciated. There may have been some swearing. We passed a woman who shouted encouragement to us, telling us that we were only three miles from the finish.

Heartened, we pedaled on.

Two miles later, we read a sign that said '5 Miles To Go.' There was definitely swearing at this point. And murder plotted. Disheartened, but determined, we pedaled on.


   
Finally at the finish, I hugged my family--Alex looking irritatingly well rested--and we cheered Laurie and our new friends in.  Dan bustled us to a massage tent where angels of mercy put their hands on our positively disgusting bodies, encrusted with 100 miles worth of crystalized sweat (sorry to be gross, but it was like sand on my face)  They stretched us and pummeled our muscles. It felt positively amazing and I think this saved me, because believe it or not, I was not sore the next day.


Over $900,000 was raised at the event for immunotherapy research. I know that more will roll in for CRI until Sept 1, when fundraising is finalized. It was an honor to be part of this effort, and I am grateful for every bit of encouragement and support along the way

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In the morning, I sipped coffee and listened to musical gift from my volleyball friends, a lyrical affirmation of their belief in me. Laurie and I talked about how fortunate we had been in the weather.  On Sunday, it neared 80 degrees by 9am.  Biking in that kind of heat would have been an altogether different sort of challenge.

I was enjoying the beautiful gardens at our airbnb and watching Olivia feed a goose and her four fluffy chicks. It suddenly washed over me that there was nothing left to do, no 100 mile buffer between me and Lauren's surgery. 

This is the next step.

Deep breath.

Heartened, or disheartened, we will pedal on.  We do not do this alone.






Thursday, June 8, 2017

Riding 100 miles for the past, present and future

They say that you should have an Elevator Pitch--a point that you would make to a captive audience that lasts the length of an elevator ride.  This makes me imagine folks in the business world lurking at a bank of elevators and carefully slipping in when an important ear should be leaving for the day, speech at the ready.

I am not sure that there are buildings tall enough (or elevators slow enough) to accommodate what I would want to say these days.  I might, however, be able to cover it over the course of a 100 mile bike ride. This is assuming, of course, that I could breathe enough to speak as I pedal uphill.

Tomorrow, I will be driving to West Point, NY.  On Saturday, Alex, Laurie and I will bike in support of Cancer Research Institute which funds immunotherapy studies and trials.  Biking 100 miles will not the biggest event of my week--it is currently ranking 4th--behind the devastating loss of my friend Gabby to metastatic breast cancer, the challenges of finding appropriate treatment for my son Brent's GVHD and the surgery that we are organizing to remove my daughter Lauren's latest cancer concern.  

Biking 100 miles will feel like a vacation.  

I do hope that it will be a 'working vacation,' and that I will have the opportunity to speak to researchers about the things that they are learning, because advances in immunotherapy would impact all three of the things that have dominated my time, emotion and attention this week. 

When life throws you challenges, rapid fire like this, it can be overwhelming. 


I grieved over the weekend for the loss of my friend, a mutant Auntie who knew my children well. Gabby remembered better than I did when 'library day' was for Olivia, and often greeted her after school through the wonder of FaceTime. I would chat with Gabby while I folded laundry, which transformed this mundane job into an engaging social event. She had a special relationship with Brent as a multiple cancer survivor and visited him both at MSKCC and in our home. Like Brent, Gabby frequently found herself in medical messes, and like Brent, she always seemed to find a way out. 

I cannot express how much Gabby brought to my life, in laughter which came easily, and random knowledge, which rivaled google. But beyond this, she had a grace and wisdom in how she faced her own life-one filled with cancer, but overflowing with love. She recognized that life is not measured in years, nor health, but rather in lives that are touched. As an example, she knew by name, nearly every person we met at MSKCC, from the nursing assistants to the elevator guy, teasingly dubbed "chief of vertical engineering"

"Has your son returned from his vacation?"  

"Do you have photos of the new baby?"  

I told her how remarkable this all was. (I am decent with remembering people's stories but horrible with retrieving their names).  She scoffed. "But, Amish, they are all so important. They care for me." And they clearly did, more than simply as their jobs required.  I know this with absolute certainty because some came to her room to check on her after they finished their work elsewhere in the hospital.

People were important to Gabby. And she treated them like the treasure that they are.  Even in hospital, even struggling, she always thought of others, which was the defining quality of her life. While nothing can be changed for Gabby, a better understanding of the immune system and advances in cancer treatment would benefit others, including our mutual mutant friends. In this way, I feel that biking the century ride honors Gabby's generous spirit.



I learned yesterday how to stick a 3/4 inch needle into my son's chest to access his mediport. For years, my personal measure of success was found in avoiding this particular nursing skill.  I will now be doing this procedure daily, in order to give Brent infusions from home.  I also navigated my way through several pharmacies this week in order to get the specialty medications that he needs. We are transitioning to a new adventure. 

It may sound like a complaint, but I consider it to be a blessing, to do this at home. (Brent sits cozily in our living room with his infusion dripping as I type this) He has had a ridiculous medical journey and his time at home is hard earned.  We never take it for granted. 

After facing three significant cancer diagnoses with Brent and the devastating side effects of treating them, I would gladly bike to support more effective and less toxic treatments. Biking 100 miles is a trifle, in the grand scheme of what life and cancer has required of my son and how both impact him today.



I took my daughter Lauren to meet her surgeon this afternoon, a hand me down from Brent's osteosarcoma days. Dr. Getty greeted us warmly, saying that he could not believe that it has been five years.  I told him that it was five cancers ago, if he wanted another measure of time.  He seems to bring out the snarkiest of humor in me.

Lauren is now fourteen years old, becoming a beautiful young lady.  While normal parents might talk to their children about the birds and the bees, a mutant sign of coming of age is learning to pick a surgical plan or evaluate treatment options. Today, my daughter asked good questions and signed assent for the first time.  

They grow up so fast. 

Lauren and I laughed in the car on the way home from this appointment about how I had bought a baby photo album for her, but as a third child, it was completely empty.  (I didn't even purchase an album for Olivia, our fourth.)  Lauren joked that instead we could fill her baby album with cancer memorabilia.  "Oh, look at that adorable adrenal tumor!  I remember that hospital gown..."  She certainly comes by the snark honestly.

Her surgery will be on Wednesday.  We welcome your prayers.  With any luck,she will not need any sort of additional treatment, but I am shopping for immunotherapy options if this growth proves to be malignant.  

Past, present and future.  This is why I ride.

Our team leaves tomorrow.  We each do what we can.  My sister Laurie, Alex and I will ride our bikes. Dan, Jamie, Brent, Lauren and Olivia will cheer us on. Thank you for doing what you can, whether it be encouraging our family, sharing our story, or donating to the cause by following this link:

As I ride, I will be thinking of Gabby's disease, unconquered by traditional chemotherapy, about Brent's current challenges, which are side effects despite the success of treating his cancer, and of Lauren's future challenges. I know that we can do better.

I will have 100 miles to think about how.    

Thursday, May 18, 2017

What doesn't kill you...


I spent nearly two months in the hospital this year with Brent, who is thankfully regaining his strength every day. I have things to work out in my mind.  I really need to work out my muscles as well.  So, I have been preparing for a hundred mile bike ride on June 10th in support of immunotherapy.  I have been writing a bit as I train with my sister and son Alex, both who are joining me in the fundraising event. I thought this entry was worth sharing.

5/10 (27 miles)

It was a lighter day for us after the long ride, really just trying to keep our legs loose.  

I thought, with gratitude, about the scientific community working on cancer.  A number of people have asked me why I am biking for Cancer Research Institute, when we have historically been active in pediatric focused efforts, like Kick-It.   We still support childhood cancer research, which is seriously underfunded.  But as I pedaled along, I thought about Brent and his gauntlet-run through oncology over the past six years and the role that immunotherapy has played.  

Throughout, I have prayed for specific things--for blood counts to rise, for pain to be avoided, for healing to happen.  I prayed all the time.  But often, I simply prayed for guidance.  "Show me what to do, and I will do it."  

Back to immunotherapy.  Brent first had osteosarcoma in 2011, a huge pelvic tumor.  After he had his limb preserving surgery at MSKCC, he was plagued by infection, something that required several other surgeries, further hospitalizations and delays of his chemo, all really bad stuff.  A few months after Brent completed this regimen, I read an article about how folks with infection issues suffered less sarcoma relapse.  I always try to find an upside in our struggles and remember sharing this bit of information with our docs. "Good thing we were dogged with infection."  They were fairly horrified.  The correlation was there, but calling infection good, is like telling a bride that rain on your wedding day is considered good luck--cold comfort when a weather event ranked somewhere between a deluge and a hurricane blows over the reception tent.

We marched onward...and discovered Brent had metastatic melanoma. Curious about how common this diagnosis is in LFS, and desperately seeking treatment ideas, I shared Brent's struggle in Living LFS's online support group. A friend messaged me and offered to text a family friend about Brent, someone who "works in melanoma." Her family friend was Jim Allison, who is now a stadium filling rock star in cancer immunotherapy. Back then, he recommended doing Interferon just as our local team had suggested.  But if it should fail, he recommended that we consult Jedd Wolchok at MSKCC, a former colleague of his. Brent did almost a year of interferon, which is an immunotherapy drug.  Melanoma, thankfully did not return. But as a result, I began following immunotherapy researchers and reading as much as I could about this emerging field.

The most exciting thing for me about immunotherapy, is that it does not rely on p53 function to eradicate cancer.  With Li-Fraumeni Syndrome, Lauren and Brent have only one effective copy of p53. The work of detecting and shutting down a faulty or damaged cell is seriously impaired, which is why my children are so prone to getting cancer in the first place. If the immune system could be harnessed to detect and eradicate cancer, it would bypass a weakened cellular mechanism and not do further damage to that already sketchy process, as chemo and radiation are prone to do, quite indiscriminately.

Brent's melanoma treatment was interrupted by just this sort of collateral damage. He developed treatment induced AML, an aggressive leukemia that requires bone marrow transplant. We were fortunate to have a perfect sibling match and we spent the better part of 2015 in the hospital, fighting to just get to transplant and then going through that arduous process. (Lauren threw a recurrent brain tumor into our summer schedule. It is a ridiculous life with LFS.)  

Brent relapsed almost immediately with AML.  I prayed for health and ideas.  He became desperately ill that autumn, and his oncology team at Rainbow Babies and Children's Hospital tried to just get him home for Christmas. They proposed using the power of Alex's transplanted immune system, boosted with extra T cells, unchecked by any protective immunosuppression.  It was dangerous and uncharted and shockingly, it worked beyond their hopes, although Brent didn't achieve a complete response. We tried epigenetic therapy through the spring, trying to bridge Brent to a trial.   

As I pedaled along, absorbed with the twists and turns and how I came to be training for 100 miles in support of immunotherapy, I wondered if God speaks through Mick Jagger, because the Rolling Stones were stuck in my head--"You can't always get what you want/ but if you try sometimes, well you might find/ you get what you need." Like the persistent infection that nipped at his heels during osteosarcoma, Brent seems to have benefited from a stunningly aggressive case of necrotizing fasciitiis (which is flesh eating bacteria-I return to the notion that we live an absurdly unbelievable life)  This infection nearly killed him last summer.  No one would prescribe such a thing, but in hindsight, there may have been an upside: The giant immune response required for Brent to overcome sepsis seems to have finished off his leukemia. Certainly not what we wanted, but perhaps this was what Brent needed.

Brent lived an incarnation of the phrase "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger"  Trust me, administering a drug like nivolumab would be a far preferable way to achieve this immune response, than dealing with the surgical after-effects of this devastating infection. I support immunotherapy research to help scientists try to understand the mechanisms of the immune system and develop more refined therapies than what Brent has endured.  The immune system may be powerful, but current therapies are bluntly applied, unevenly effective and not deeply understood. CRI helps scientists advance this promising new field.

We will never know for sure, but as I look over the explanations for how Brent has survived these malignancies, science would point to the power of the immune system being a significant factor, although I do not question the power of prayer: a combination therapy.  

Brent gratefully remains in remission.

If you would like to help me support this research, click on the link below.  Many thanks!




Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Shaking it up

With a bit of time on my hands, while Brent naps, I thought that I would write something.  I found several empty, untitled drafts from the past two months.  I vaguely remember sitting down, but not knowing how exactly to describe what our family was doing.

In November, we successfully grafted skin from Alex and covered the large wound on Brent's back, something that has never been done before.  Alex took time from his studies at the University of Michigan to do what he was uniquely able to for his brother.  I am proud of his generosity to Brent and of the man that Alex is becoming.

While the graft has been a raging success, Brent has since developed painful lymphedema, GVHD and open wounds on his legs that have required a great deal of attention and care.  It was isolating, exhausting and discouraging for all of us, in ways that are difficult to put into words. Seeing your child in pain, unable to alleviate it, is incredibly difficult.  Causing the pain, even as we were caring for these wounds, was even harder.

Whenever I despaired, which was often, I would mentally point with gratitude to the things that were working: the absence of cancer and the success of the skin graft. I struggled this fall, trying to balance gratitude and grief. I was paralyzed emotionally, and physically weary from tending to Brent's medical requirements, discouraged without seeing progress or an end to his suffering.

I thought that I would shake things up in the new year by committing to a 100 mile bike ride that will take place in June.  The event raises funds to support immunotherapy research via Cancer Research Institute.  I registered for the race and began to train, believing that this would be good for me--mind, body and soul-- as well as benefit cancer patients like my children.

Brent's idea of shaking it up in 2017 was developing septic pneumonia, and enduring a five day stint in the PICU.

I write today from his hospital room, beginning our third week here.  My sincere hope is that we have checked the box for 'life threatening episode,' for 2017, a habit that is alarming on its own, but especially in the way that it has become routine for us.

Brent is improving slowly and we hope to return home sometime this week.

We welcome your prayers for the RamerNation, and if you were inclined, your support for Cancer Research Institute.